Andre – whose name, like all the daters in this piece, has been changed to protect his privacy – is a 27-year-old from London who uses Tinder and Bumble. So, too, can your read on how a date went.
“It feels amazing to be helping protect so many women,” an anonymous moderator of the London group tells VICE.īut in the world of dating discourse, definitions of a red flag can differ dramatically. And in a world where almost two million people are on Tinder in the UK alone, a community that has your back can make all the difference. They are difficult to read, detailing instances of coercion, assault, racism, extortion and abuse.īy collating these walking red flags, women get to – in theory – crowdsource their own safety. These usually carry a trigger warning and are more frequently anonymous.
In some cases, a post is a warning to all members. Are We Dating the Same Guy works like this: A person will post a screenshot of a man’s dating profile from an app and ask, “any tea?” Members will respond with what they know about the guy: first-hand accounts, stories of friends matching, screenshots of chats and so on.